It is not something that you are born with.
There is not a single person out there that just “has confidence”.
They built it. Over time and by accomplishing tasks.
I know that the New Year is right around the corner and we want to make this year our best.
I 100% agree with you that no matter what this year was like, every single new year should be this mindset, to be better than the last year of our life.
A mistake that I see from people that don’t have very much confidence is they set these HUGE changes that they want to make.
The reason why it is a mistake is because you need to build up your confidence by accomplishing small tasks at first meaning; instead of saying I want to lose 50 pounds in 2023, start off with a task that you can accomplish in 30 days, so maybe it is I want to lose 10 pounds by the end of January.
That is not an easy task but it is something that if you think about it, if you can lose those 10 pounds in one month then you will start to realize that you are capable of doing bigger things which is building up your confidence.
I did this while I was in the Army, I started out with an Infantry contract when I first enlisted; I didn’t go in saying “I am ready for Special Forces Selection”, I was not confident in that.
While in Infantry school, I built up the confidence that I could do the whole jumping out of planes thing, so with that confidence I picked up an Airborne contract.
Once I made it to my airborne unit and completing multiple training exercises, getting some awards for performing well, I built up the confidence to go to a very hard course, Ranger School.
Each phase you pass in Ranger school, you build up more confidence that you can pass the next phase and before you know it you are getting that Ranger Tab.
After passing Ranger school, my confidence grew in order for me to now finally say, “I am ready for Special Forces Selection”
This cycle repeated itself, every “50 meter target” that I hit, I pushed my range farther of what target to hit next.
When I got out of the military, as you guys know, I was recovering from 3 big surgeries, TBI rehab and honestly self confidence rehab. I was scared and not very confident of what was to come being a civilian.
But, I remembered how I got to where I was in the military and worked on getting that same mindset back.
Every day that you guys see me putting out a new product and it does well, that is building my confidence to build even more creative stuff for you in order to make this experience the best.
No matter whether it was developing supplements, creating and designing apparel or creating the programs that you guys crush, It all started with very little confidence on what it would produce but as the products continue to get purchased and the results from the products just keep getting better and better from each individual that uses them, it build more confidence that what I am out to achieve is working so it makes me think bigger and bigger every single day.
Trust me, I know what it feels like to be confident and I know for damn sure what it feels like to be scared and unconfident.
Another story I have for you that I would do with my fighters whether it was foreign or domestic to build confidence is what we call a “confidence target”
For example, before going to raid a Taliban village of 100+ fighters, we would raid smaller targets of 5-10 fighters in order to build up that confidence with our partner force.
A lot of bad things would have happened if we would have skipped the confidence targets and just went for the lottery areas.
It opened their eyes by achieving the confidence targets that the big missions weren’t so bad and the confidence in accomplishing that mission is much greater.
Think about what your “confidence targets” are going to be next year, don’t even worry about the home run yet, that will come with time and building up your confidence.